The narcissist often demands sacrifices from his co-dependent. And she, who is utterly infatuated with him and is lost without him is more than willing to comply. 

John de Ruiter is a self proclaimed messiah from Alberta Canada. His brain dead followers worship him as if he is God.

Joyce, de Ruiter's estranged wife of 18 years, in an interview said that she loved him very much. But during the last year of their marriage, John started spending more time with two beautiful sisters who were his followers and less time with her. When she expressed her concerns, at first he denied the whole thing. When the affair became public, he claimed that he is still loyal to his wife and his fornication with these two beautiful girls is not out of lust. That there is no disloyalty because in his heart he still loves his wife. “Living in a moral code or moral structure is the elimination of love,” he told his followers. Narcissists often live above the moral code. They are too big to abide by any morality or rule. Despite that, Joyce did not leave him, until one day de Ruiter dropped a bombshell. "We were sitting around the kitchen smoking cigarettes," says Joys, "He was talking about my 'death.' He acknowledged that I had gone through a lot of dying, which was a good thing. I had let go of ninety-five percent of the life that I had to let go of. But he said I wasn't letting myself go completely. He suggested that my ultimate death would be if he took on two more wives." Joyce says she thought he was joking. He wasn't. He brought up the matter a second time, and asked Joyce if she thought his three wives could live in the same house. It was obvious to her that he meant the von Sass sisters, but he wouldn't say any more. [5]

Fortunately Joys was not a co-dependent to the extent that could agree to be humiliated to this level. A true co-dependent would do anything to appease her narcissist. The relationship of a co-dependent and her narcissist is that of sadomasochism. Joyce could not bear this humiliation and abuse and left her degenerate charlatan husband.

Unfortunately for mankind, Khadijah was a real co-dependent, who was willing to sacrifice everything for her adored narcissist. However, to her credit, she must have had enough self-respect to not allow Muhammad take another wife while she was still alive. Also we have to remember that Khadijah was the one with the money. For Muhammad who had not a dime to his name, bringing another wife to the house of Khadijah was not possible. Furthermore, the majority of the people of Mecca derided him. He was called a lunatic. No one would have married him even if he had money and Khadijah did not oppose. In Mecca, his followers did not number more that seventy or eighty and they were mostly slaves with only few women among them. There was no one who could qualify to marry him. Had Khadijah survived to see Muhammad's rise to power, most likely she would have to endure the humiliation of sharing her husband with other women.  

The dynamism between the narcissist and his co-dependent is complex, abusive and mutually satisfying. Both are needy people and therefore each satisfies the needs of the other in the right way. This makes the two bind together and a sick lasting symbiosis is developed between them. If this symbiotic relationship is destroyed, e.g. by the death of one of the partners, the other will not be able to form the same kind of relationship with another person unless he finds another sick person that would compliments him. This explains why Muhammad after the death of Khadijah became a sexual butterfly and as soon as he could afford it, he created a harem with more than a score of women. He was trying to compensate the loss of his sugar mommy with sex. He kept adding to the collection of his women but none could meet his childish needs. He needed protection and love. What he needed was a mother, something these teenagers hardly could be to an old man.

No one has yet analyzed the relationship of Muhammad with Khadijah under this light. In my book From Mecca to 9/11 I have shown in detail the psychological profile of Muhammad and his relationship with those close to him him. We can understand the Muhammad phenomenon, only if we understand his psychology and his relationship with his mother, foster parents,  grandfather, uncle and wife.  

You continued: “After Khadijah died, many other beautiful women tried most of them unsuccessfully, to conquer his heart, and Aisha was one of those who succeeded in that respect.”

Are you saying that a six year old child had fallen in love with a 51 year old man and it was she who courted Muhammad?

This defies logic. You are a nuclear scientist. This statement would be unacceptable from an uneducated Muslim. How can we qualify this coming from a professor?

Apart from the fact that this kind of logic is mind-boggling, it is also historically wrong. It wasn’t the 6 years old child Aisha who fell in love with Muhammad, a man old enough to be her grandfather, but it was the other way round. I have quoted all the hadiths that talk about this subject in the article dedicated to Aisha, however let me quote a hadith to show you that it was Muhammad who used to fantasize about the child Aisha.   

Sahih Bukhari 9.140
Narrated 'Aisha:
Allah's Apostle said to me, "You were shown to me twice (in my dream) before I married you. I saw an angel carrying you in a silken piece of cloth, and I said to him, 'Uncover (her),' and behold, it was you. I said (to myself), 'If this is from Allah, then it must happen.' Then you were shown to me, the angel carrying you in a silken piece of cloth, and I said (to him), 'Uncover (her), and behold, it was you. I said (to myself), 'If this is from Allah, then it must happen.' "

The following hadith also shows that it was Muhammad who approached Abu Bakr and asked Aisha to be wed to him.

Sahih Bukhari 7.18
Narrated 'Ursa:
The Prophet asked Abu Bakr for 'Aisha's hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said "But I am your brother." The Prophet said, "You are my brother in Allah's religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry."

The foolish Abu Bakr at first was taken aback and tried to argue but could not resist the insistence of the charlatan Muhammad. He only managed to make Muhammad agree to wait three years until Aisha becomes slightly bigger.  

In your second point you wrote: “Suppose he was a liar; ok, but then he must have been a very special liar!!”  

Yes indeed. Muhammad was a very special liar. He was a psychopathic liar. This is quite different from how you and I lie. We can't lie in the same way that psychopaths lie and can't be as convincing as they are. I can’t even lie to my 5 year old nephew where I have hidden the Danish cookies. I can't wipe the laughter off my face when I lie. But a psychopath is the first to believe in his own lies.

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