Narcissism by Proxy
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Narcissism by Proxy
Why Muslims and particularly Muslim men are unable to admit they are wrong when this is demonstrated beyond doubt?
This is a psychological problem and it has to do with their gigantic ego. They are not stupid. They perfectly know when they are mistaken. But they are trapped in the hole that they have dug for themselves and they can't get out of it.
Muslims are experts in the Islamic art of "tu quoque". They don't know how to defend Islam. Every single Muslim with whom I have debated engaged in the logical fallacy of tu quoque and instead of defending Islam they attacked other beliefs.
Why Muslims can’t admit that they are wrong abut anything? It is because they follow a narcissist and have inherited his narcissistic traits. But can the narcissism of one man pass on to his companions and followers? Dr. Sam Vaknin says yes:
Vaknin explains: “Personality disorders are not contagious in the restricted, rigorous, medical sense. They are not communicated by pathogens from one individual to another. Still, they are communicated.
Gradually, the narcissist distorts the personalities of those he is in constant touch with, casts them in his defective mould, limits them, redirects them, and inhibits them.
We become as tactless as he is, as devoid of empathy and of consideration, as ignorant of the emotional makeup of other people, and as one track minded. Exposed in the sick halo of the narcissist, we have been "infected".
The narcissist invades our personality. He makes us react the way he would have liked to, had he dared, or had he known how (a mechanism known as "projective identification").
The narcissist incessantly, adamantly, even aggressively makes demands upon his human environment. He is addicted to his Narcissistic Supply: admiration, adoration, approval, attention. He forces others to lie to him and over-rate his achievements, his talents, and his merits. Living in a narcissistic fantasyland, he compels his closest, nearest and dearest to join him there.
The resulting exhaustion, desperation and weakening of the will are fully taken advantage of by the narcissist. He penetrates these reduced defences and, like a Trojan horse, spews forth his lethal charge. Gradually, those in proximity to him, find themselves imitating and emulating his personality traits. The narcissist also does not refrain from intimidating them into compliance with his commands. ”
Vaknin is describing a typical narcissist who has not laid the claim of divinity and his victims are not his followers. What he says is far truer in the case where the narcissist becomes an actual cult leader and his followers think of him as the representative of God of Earth.
Vaknin says: “The narcissist coerces people around him by making subtle uses of processes such as reinforcement and conditioning. Seeking to avoid the unpleasant consequences of not succumbing to his wishes, people would rather put up with his demands and be subjected to his whims. Not to confront his terrifying rages, they "cut corners", pretend, participate in his charade, lie, and become subsumed in his grandiose fantasies.
Rather than be aggressively nagged, they reduce themselves and minimise their personalities. By doing all this – they delude themselves that they have escaped the worst consequences.
The narcissist uses others as an outlet to all these repressed emotions and behaviour patterns. Having invaded their personalities, having altered them by methods of attrition and erosion, having made them compatible with his own disorder, having secured the submission of his victims – he moves on to occupy their shells. Then he makes them do what he has always dreamt of doing, what he has often desired, what he has constantly feared to do.”
It is interesting to note that despite the fact that Muhammad waged over three scores of battles during the last tens yours of his life and encouraged his followers to be courageous and face death valiantly, he never fought in person. In all his wars he stool behind his army, well protected by his cronies and often wearing two coats of mail one over the other that made his movement cumbersome and he needed the help of his men to walk around. This man dreamt of power but feared for his life more than anything else. He made others to do what he dared not.
Vaknin continues:
“The narcissist can, thus, derive, vicariously, through the lives of others, the Narcissistic Supply that he so craves. He induces in his army of zombies criminal, romantic, or heroic, impulses. He makes them travel far and fast, breach all norms, gamble against all odds, fear none – in short: he transforms them into that which he could never be.”
Reading the above one wonders whether vaknin is talking about the Muhammad and his Muslim Jihadis. There is no denial in the criminal, romantic and heroic impulses of these zombies. Vaknin may not even know anything about Islam. He is however an expert in narcissism and when he describes narcissism, he describes Muhammad and his benighted followers.
Vaknin Says:
“The narcissist thrives on the attention, admiration, fascination, or horrified reactions lavished upon his proxies. He consumes the Narcissistic Supply flowing through these human conduits of his own making. Such a narcissist is likely to use sentences like "I made him", "He was nothing before he met me", "He is my creation", "She learned everything she knows from me and at my expense", and so on.”
See the following verse:
3.103 “… And remember with gratitude Allah's favour on you; for ye were enemies and He joined your hearts in love, so that by His Grace, ye became brethren; and ye were on the brink of the pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus doth Allah make His Signs clear to you: That ye may be guided”.
Muhammad disparaged the culture of the Arabs and the people that he conquered and called them Jaheliah (Ignorance). However, when we see the state of the Muslims, it becomes clear that the ignorance of the Arabs and all the nations that fell under the sway of Islam began with Islam itself.
But, what about the Muslims? How they become narcissists? They vicariously inherit their prophet’s characteristics. They emulate his examples, act like him and think like him. They enter in Muhammad’s bubble universe and each one of them becomes a reflection of him, projecting his paranoia, sense of grandiosity and other narcissistic trait. They assume the role of victim, fabricate enemies and intensely hate these imagined enemies.
Dr. Vaknin explains:
“Some people adopt the role of a professional victim. In doing so, they become self-centered, devoid of empathy, abusive, and exploitative. In other words, they become narcissists. The role of "professional victims" - people whose existence and very identity rest solely and entirely on their victimhood - is well researched in victimology.
These victim "pros" are often more cruel, vengeful, vitriolic, lacking in compassion and violent than their abusers. They make a career of it. They identify with this role to the exclusion of all else. It is a danger to be avoided. And this is precisely what I call "Narcissistic Contagion" or "Narcissism by Proxy".
This is the psychological explanation for the hatred that the Muslims have for non-Muslims. This hatred is not due to anything that anyone has done. It is self induced. It consumes them with intensity and fervor. Nothing can pacify them except revenge.
When you debate with Muslims, they avoid any talk about Islam, but instead they talk about about Hiroshima , Nagasaki , and the abuse of the Native Americans or the Abu Ghriab to justify his hatred. The Japanese and the Natives, who were affected, do not see themselves as victims. What happened sixty years ago in Hiroshima and Nagasaki or five hundred yeas ago to the American Indians is history. Today Japan and America are allies and good friends. The American Natives are American patriots and proud of their country. There is no rancor or anger among these people. History is history. People live in the present. But Muslims are embittered about these things which had nothing to do with them. They need to justify their hatred and see themselves as victims what America did to other people decades of centuries ago. Abu Ghraib had nothing to do Muslims. In comparison to what Saddam did to the Iraqis it was insignificant. On top of that the perpetrators were punished. But Muslims need Abu Ghraib to feed their hatred and justify the terrorism of his brothers. They, like zombie are bereft of human feelings. They can be ruthless and heartless and consumed in their hatred without realizing that they are victims of their blind devotion to Muhammad.
Vaknin concludes: “Narcissism is contagious and many victims tend to become narcissists themselves: malevolent, vicious, lacking empathy, egotistical, exploitative, violent and abusive.”
The above explains the malevolence, viciousness, the lack of empathy, the violence, the abuse and the explosiveness of Muslims. But it also explains why Muslims are unable to admit error. They must be right, all the cost even at the cost of being ridiculous.
